It is the case and Perencejito Cucuchi (C and P). C and P are met through a mutual friend a few months ago and made "click" (literally because they started their romance on msn). Calls came and went, dozens of alerts to nextel, endless conversations and comments on the Facebook messenger seemed to host a happy ending. Came the day of the meeting and surprise surprise, they liked both face to face as a monitor to monitor so that the meetings became recurrent.
Film, Happy Hour on Fridays, as a DVD at home, we cook in mine and more. It should be noted the outputs by more than frequent, were completely innocent as to P took several appointments encouraged to kiss his beloved shiny and "confess" that had haunted. When that happened, C only managed to beat the tab again and slumped into his arms, knowing that this time had found its Shrek.
The following outputs began with a tender kiss on the mouth and continued to walk hand in hand, and Perencejo Cucuchi were changing chubby, love, pig and other sugary nicknames.
passed few weeks of happiness and P is complicated times and had many affairs and travel professionals that revolutions the affair down to levels nearly comatose.
What happened? asked C, but not daring to look it up directly with him. Why? because he was about to say 'hey that was Perencejo, disappear "oh surprise, he realized he did not know if I was in a position to do so and a much more complex question was drawn on his head: Are we? , or we're just dating? Did you scare if I ask? "Better not say nothing right? Poor C takes days wondering the same thing and so far the story is found in to be continue ...
back to reality. Long ago anyone told me that her boyfriend sat and took her hand to ask will you be my girlfriend? or at least do you want to be with me? and is that things change, evolve, or as we like to call it. Nobody asked your father for permission to "pretenderte" and few men who asked permission to kiss (and few women, myself included, who find that pretty dumb question) and I thank heaven for it, because now every couple decides as start, terminate and take their relationship. The problem arises when two parties disagree but no one dared to say to avoid problems when communication fails and you assume things or is that everything is clear and it is not. In cases such as C and P are as many scenarios as couples in the world but here I'll tell you some real life:
- Case 1: It happened. I dated a guy for 3 months almost daily, including hugs and kisses, many people thought we were (I was never very safe and never asked not to scare him) but the matter was completed overnight without notice, without grace for your time, no farewell dinner, there was only a tacit if I saw you do not remember.
- Case 2, the other end: A friend, now married, he chose his birthday to finger because they never asked me would you be? They met, went out and fell in love the relationship flowed so naturally that even though you never said "ok, from the moment we are in love" both knew it.
- Case 3: The intermediate case is that the end was worse, he and she came out a couple of months ago and everything was great, but she wanted to know who trod ground, and direct as anyone else asked coquettishly: Chubby, mmmm what are we? the response was swift and came with a recatafila of "whys" from "is not the right time" to "I do not like to label my relationships." Needless to say that the question marked the end of the relationship and "chubby" a cloud of dust left behind after running away.
a situation, 3 possible outcomes, then, it failed in the first case by failing to ask? o failed her in the third case to do so? or maybe they were both so pineapples were a couple of morons who came dressed as Prince Charming. Roughly would 66.666666% chance that things do not go well. I am not a statesman, nor an expert on relationships, not only share my experience.
understand that men can go crazy because they often do not talk about face and we walk around the bush or indirect waiting for us to read your mind. I know they will not, not psychic and we should not expect that magically guess what we feel and think. If we want something we know about! but I also know that fear to ask what are we? is authentic. Want the boy and do not want to scare you, but you want and your peace of mind is basic to a relationship forward.
In every relationship there are two, then why does this uneasiness should be exclusively for them, I'm sure it is not but never saw a man breaking his brain to know if their loved her boyfriend considered official or not (in If not raised the blessed question.) So, ask or not ask, that's the dilemma, suggestions received.
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